7 WAYS to IMPROVE COMMUNICATION SKILLS!

In this context, we will not talk about tricks, tips, techniques because they are easily available on the internet or in books and those are mostly theoretical. So what we will do is, we will see this practically, with which we all can relate. We will try to find the way to improve communication skills by asking ourselves some realistic questions.

 

Language/ भाषा: English | हिन्दी

Is there any person in your life to whom you cannot tolerate even for 5 minutes? I am not talking about the people with whom you, as an individual, might have some problems. I am talking about them, those who are intolerable by everyone. Just think about him/ her just for sometime.

Now, let's just point out some things along with their reasons that we observe in such people:

- They talk very senseless and meaning less, like for example a discussion is happening on a particular topic and they suddenly start talking about something else. So this becomes annoying most of the times. The reason behind this is, he/ she is more eager to talk, he/she is more eager to tell his/her point of view. What will happen due to this is, he/she will keep on talking for minutes or hours but, no one will pay attention to him/her.

- Occasionally it also happens that we are talking very senseful and meaningful, but still the listener is not paying attention to you or is his/her own thoughts. Because of this, you may start feeling awkward or disrespected The best thing to do at this time is to stop talking to him/her for that moment.

- You might have noticed some people always talking about themselves even in a group or sometimes fire hundreds of questions on you at a time. They just keep on asking questions and are not even listening your answers, but still. There are also people who ask genuine questions and are also interested in knowing your views or answers, so this makes sense. This type of questioning is appreciable, nice and interesting at times.

- It happens very often that a group of people is having their discussions and another person comes and interferes in and starts discussing about his/ her past. Remember one thing, no one is interested in your past, unless and until the person is very close to you. So, never ever bring your past in conversation when there is  generation gap between you and the other people in the group. By doing this, you will break the effect conversation. If everyone is of the  same generation, your talks might be enjoyed as well.

- You might have also experienced that you are not able to put forward your view about a particular thing. Remember always that there are some people who think themselves as extra smart. You might have observed that some conversation is going on very politely among a group and a third person enters and start talking in high pitch as if he is speaking. You may feel that he/ she is very dominant. But no! That's the most rubbish thing. Obviously, if someone is trying to dominate with his/her talks irrespective of gender and age, we never ever love it. Hence, always avoid dominating.

- The word communication has come out of the main word 'commune' meaning 'to share'. So, good communication means to share something good, something appropriate and not to convince others.

- There are two main components of communication- sender and receiver. If the sender is effective and the receiver is not, then also good communication does not take place. The receiver also needs to very attentive and always be a good speaker. When a person is sharing something with you like for example he/she is sharing his/her experience, you can put yourself in his/her place and listen to make the communication more attentive and fruitful. If you will not listen to the speaker and start speaking any thing irrelevant will make your talk very senseless, no one will like to listen you and your communication skills will be judged then and there.

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- The amount of things that you speak also matters in communication. So to speak perfect, you will need to listen carefully, feel the information, think on it and then you'll be able to decide whether to speak more or less. If you speak more on a topic where less words are need, then no one will show their interest in listening you and on the other hand, if you speak very less on a topic where more words are expected, the information you were willing to share will not be communicated healthily to the listeners and the outcome will then not be of satisfaction. Hence, always be a silent/good listener so that you can decide how much to speak.

To summarize, 7 ways to Improve Communication Skills are:

1. Always talk meaningful.
2. Stop taking if the listener is not interested in your talks.
3. Ask and answer only genuine questions.
4. Don't try to dominate yourself over others.
5. Always share, don't convince.
6. Be a good listener.
7. Always speak in appropriate amount.

COMMUNICATION IS ALL ABOUT UNDERSTANDING THE OTHER PERSON,

NOT ABOUT WINNING AN ARGUMENT OR FORCING YOUR OPINIONS ON OTHERS.